Saturday, October 28, 2006

Top Ten reasons why people quit or want to quit their jobs.

A lot of my friends call me when they want to quit or are thinking of quitting their jobs. And this topic came up recently with a friend of mine who has nothing to complain about in terms of money of power, but he was thinkin of a shift anyway. Most often people quote promotions or money (or lack thereoff) or boss/peer issues as reasons. But i believe there are only two reasons why people quit. and all others are sub-sets of the two. These are:

  • They got what they wanted (or needed)

or

  • They didnt get what they wanted (or needed) from the job

Note - Want and need are completely two different things, and i shall not get into the semantics of that.

Now that the reasons for quitting are established, lets get into the top 10 excuses for quitting a job, which arise from the above mentioned 2 reasons. (In no particular order)

  1. Hate the boss/peers/ team
  2. Hate my work content - I think im not doing "value added stuff"
  3. Work life imbalanced, heavily in favor of work
  4. Too much bench-time (Idle mind is the devils workshop)
  5. Didnt get promoted even though i deserved to
  6. Dont get paid as much i deserve to
  7. Office politics - People out to scuttle my career like its the Black Pearl (Refer Pirates of the carribean)
  8. Have great work, decent peers, decent boss, but no career path ahead as it is top heavy already
  9. Have great work, decent peers, decent boss, but my role is too stifling and has no scope for making independent decisions
  10. The organization doesnt know where it is going nor where i am going with it...

Thats it. The great listing...But i think all material things being equal, its only 2 things tht really motivate a person to quit - Either your hatred towards your boss is stronger than your love for your work, or Your work content sucks so much that u are willing to give up good money, great boss and the bestest peers to move on.

Frankly there are more reasons why people dont quit than there are for people quitting. But thats another post on another day best written when im in a more optimistic frame of mind

A good quiz to take to check whether you shud be looking for a new job ...

http://www.careerjournal.com/jobhunting/change/20050216-krantz.html

Sunday, October 22, 2006

Sick songs...

Coldster's paradise

As I sneeze through the mountain of kleenex around me,
I take a look at my self and realize there's nothing left.
Cause I've been achooinng and coughin so long that
Even my mama thinks my brain is sneezed out
But I ain't never swatted a mosquito that didn't deserve it
.....

Trying to be inspired by Gangsta's paradise...

Written by me in a fit of self pity... and inability to sleep despite heavy doses of tylenol

Whats the point of a damn vacation if i fall sick everytime i finish it. Thought vacations were supposed to relax the nerves

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Life, the universe and me...

There are times when i look around myself and realize that not everyone is a hurry to get somewhere. In fact i dont think people even think about where they want to get to, let alone hurry to it. Then there is me. Hurrying all the time. Would probably help if i knew where i wanted to go though.

I've been accused of several things all my life. One is not knowing what i want. Another is about windmills. First things first. I do know what i want. And knowing is the damned problem. Most people want to make boss by x , retire by y, start their own business by z, blah blah blah. I want to build a house. A house which i design. Which i furnish. Which i own. I want to travel the world. I want a phd. I want 30 visas on my passport by the time i am 30. I want to learn. So why do people say i dont know what i want??? Unfortunately i know the answer to that as well. Thats coz what i want doesnt really gel with the idea of "what is expected" of a 20-something professional. Add to it, the fact that the said professional is female; then any mention of home and hearth is percieved as the fact that i am ready to slow my career down for the sake of marriage. Guy gets engaged - reaction: Good for him. He is settling down. He will be stable. A long distance runner for the company. Girl gets engaged - reaction: Oh God. She will not travel. She will have "other priorities" ; she cannot concentrate on her work; blah blah

Probably the most cliched male-female in the corporate world thing. It is such blatant double standards which brings out the pessimist in me.

Then there is this thing about windmills and me. Recently i made a statement that just because some circumstances or events worked out favourable to me, doesnt mean i agree with the principle of the said event/ circumstance. I once argued with my english teacher in school because she had given me higher marks than my classmate despite both our answers being the same. She obviously didnt take kindly to the whole issue. And i was told to shut up as i was not affected. Today, im told much the same thing. But u know what, i think i need to keep fight those windmills. Else the windmills would keep churning our garbage and dust which will ultimately choke me of whatever ethics and integrity i possess.

Life is a bitch. Then you die
The universe started with a bang. It will end with one. Soon.
Im stuck between life and universe. And not smart enough to cut my losses and run.

Bah.

(If you read this hoping for some connection to the Arthur Dents and Fords and trillians of the fictional world, there is one. Didnt this post read like it was written by Marvin???)

Saturday, October 14, 2006

Dedicated to ...

Post is dedicated to the only 2 known readers of my blog...vandy n mohan...u guys sure do have patience...

Landed in Spore today...Slept in fits and starts. Thanks to a sleepless night on IA , where the airhostess/steward wakes me up rudely and asks me veg or non-veg. My response was equally rude..."Given that i WAS sleeping, its was a irrelevant question to ask me. Does my answer really matter to you?"

Poor chap. was left in place for rest of flight

Its full of haze...through the day. The Indonesian forest fire +South eastern winds have caused smog throughout the day, and the picture isnt looking great for the future. Had an ordinary day...Wet to sentosa. Got stranded for 15 minutes on the open Skycar. With feet dangling in the air 15 feet above ground. They stopped allowing ppl on the skycar lifts after us. And after a slow move to the other side, the lift was closed for technical faults...
Took foto with albino python. Saw 4d film.

All in a days work indeed

Friday, October 13, 2006

TTD

Things to do... (in a 10-year span)
  • learn swimming and guitar playing
  • see greece and italy
  • clean my desk (or quit without cleaning my desk)
  • Drive 100km...ok 50 km... at a stretch
  • Eat at Mamma Mia
  • See Rajasthan
  • Bungee Jump
  • Volunteer with an NGO
  • Cook a two course meal
  • First cook a single course meal
  • File tax returns
  • Take insurance
  • Wear a sari
  • Travel to the andamans and / or lakshadweep
  • Learn Spanish
  • Pretend to like shoe.clothes.perfume. shopping
  • Mail old friends
  • Meet my teachers from school
  • Cut my nails (ok...thats like a daily target)
  • Watch three movies back to back
  • Blog daily
  • Work for a PE/ pureplay consulting firm
  • Do a PhD in operations and decision sciences
  • Jog in the morning
  • Get a Jet platinum card
  • Apply for a IA ff card
  • Take a pic with a fully grown tiger
  • Go to aussie land
  • Do a houseboat trip in Kashmir
  • Kenyan safari
  • Work in a startup
  • Make profits in F&O trading
  • See Apu's Mumbai house
  • Buy a flat

.......................... The list continues

Guess id best need to remember...

"If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.
If turnips were watches, I would wear one by my side.
And if "ifs" and "ands"Were pots and pans,
There'd be no work for tinkers!
"

- Courtesy "The Real Mother Goose" - http://trmg.designwest.com/index.html

Tuesday, October 10, 2006

Some weird tags- Amended: 10 april 07

Some (weird) tags i use on google:)

New additions: 10th april 2007

  • Denial is not a river in Egypt
  • Work is worship. Thank god im not pious
  • Their's not to make reply,Their's not to reason why,Their's but to do and die
  • For Yesterday is but a Dream, And To-morrow is only a Vision

==================================================

  • Life is a bitch and then you die
  • Back from lunch
  • Breakfasting
  • Orkutty
  • Where have all the cowboys gone
  • Bah!
  • Bang Boom Bash
  • Busy Reinventing the wheel
  • Out of my mind! Back in five minutes
  • Blah
  • Miaow
  • Confucious says - Be original

Monday, October 09, 2006

What i miss

Most of the fun moments in my life have been defined with food...am definitely a foodie...make that a veg foodie...so here goes...

I miss…

…eating chat at juhu
…strawberries and cream at Bachelors
…Pasta at Mamma Mia on French bridge
…eating curd rice with a view of the sea and honking geese
…Kanchan’s cooking in Landmark Apartments
…Wednesday / Thursday night pigathons at Ramnayaks in Matunga
…Hunting for Veg food in Batam, Indonesia
…Vanelli’s pasta in Deira city center
…Papa John’s pizza with the absolutely superb pepperoncinis
…Komala’s at Serangoon road
…the soup on MS Mirage, Aswan
…eating south indian food in a third class joint in Colombo
…Unlimited parathas on Juhu beach
…Pani puris in Gangothri in Cathedral road
…Puchkas in sector 15 market in Faridabad
…Mexican food in Latinos (May it rest in peace) in Lady Curzon road
…More Mexican food in Shiv Sagar in Churchgate
…Idlis on Ibrahim sahib street
…Ordering dinner from Vrindy’s when I was in SP
…Juice junction sandwiches ordered in our erstwhile office on Lavelle Road
…Eating at Amruth on St Marks Road
…Lunches at Daddy’s Deli, Something fishy and Langford Bistro
And most of all….
…Mom’s cooking from good old days in Kerala

Saturday, October 07, 2006

Triple treat bonanza!!!

Few things make me happier than loafing around. One of those things is loafing around in a movie theatre. And this week past, ive logged in decent time in movie theatres, to keep me grinning for a week. Watched "Dor" on thursday night. Friday was a double bill of "Khosla ka Ghonsla" and "Pyaar ke side effects". Three different genres. Three different casts (with some overlap) but all pure VFM.

In order of my preference...here goes

#1 : Pyaar Ke side effects: Rahul Bose rocks.Ranvir rocks more. As Rahul-Sid takes you through Pyaar, engagement and break-up ke side effects, he evokes quite a few laughs. He isnt the most comfortable in hindi, but the dialogues are well written enough that you forget about that. Pretty well taken movie, some scenes which i remembered ...
Security guard stops Sid when he is running away with Trisha from her wedding to Vivek
Trish: Aap kaun hai humein rokne waaley? Police bhi nahin, military bhi nahi
Security guard: Hum security hain. Uniform pehenke rakha hai.
Trish: Uniform tho waiter aur watchman bhi pehenthe hain...

Sid to Trisha:"Tum ban jao us chadda ki chaddi.”

Nanu on the demerits of marriage: "Batman ne shaadi nahi ki. Superman ne shaadi nahi ki. Yaha tak Shaktiman ne shaadi nahi ki. Who to Indian hai, agar karta to uski maa bahut pakati usko"

# 2 Dor...

Saw this two nights back, and i have never had too much of a head for movie scenes. 24 hours is my retention. But its a very well taken movie, a bit slow at times. Shreyas Talpade rocks. Gul Panag doesnt quite fit in her role, though she tries. Ayesha Takia is a surprise. Except for a jarring note where the three suddenly decide to "live it up" by dancing to Kajrare in the desert, the movie is fairly smooth. But i do have a question. Why wud i run all around the place for a signature on a piece of paper from a woman in Rajastan, which then needs to be given to the Saudi government thru a Indian official.. Could nt Gul have just forged the signature???
Some memorable scenes
  • Shreyas Talpade explaining why the camel doesnt move : "Yeh bada vichaarpoorn oonth hai"
  • Shreyas Talpade's drunk scene
  • Ayesha Takia as Meera , the widow dancing to "you are my sonia" and mouthing dialogues of Hero

What i didnt quite like was the last scene a-la DDLJ. Overkill for a movie which was pretty gritty

#3: Khosla ka Ghosla: Clean. wholesome. well made. My only complaint was that the movie upto the intermission could have been conveyed in 25 minutes. Bomman Irani steals the show. Also Ranvir and Parvin Dabbas as the useless first and stressed out second son are impressive. Navin Nischol is extremely convincing. Tara Sharma is the misfit in the cast. Bit loud with a tendency to shriek...worth a watch for sure!!!

Only thing left for me to watch is "Woh Lamhe"...hopefully next week

Thursday, October 05, 2006

Of genesis of names...

I was going through my mail box and was looking at what weird names my various groups have...


There is "Gaonwaalon" my batch e-group...which has its origin in the days of a batch PG lab in Lonavala. In our first month at SP, we were taken for a Personality Guidance (PG) lab to a far remote place (HA!!!) called Lonavala. We were then split into three groups who named themselves various things . I ended up in a group called "Ahaaa" named so (not coz of pepsi - remember we were serious wannabe managers) coz we had heard so many times during our first few days our dean saying "the ahaaaa effect"...It was during a trek with this group in Lohagadh that our batch name was coined. When ever the whole team would slow down in the trek, one of my enterprising batchmates would scream "Gaonwaaaaaloooooooon...Aakraman" and the whole team would sprint 500 m without stopping, much to the bemusement of the facilitators, who gave up trying to analyze us for some time. So thats why i dont get mails from a group boringly called SPJPGP2003 or some such equally nauseus name, but from gaonwalon@......com :-) I love my global village!!!

Next is my own personal junta ka group who have kept in touch over mail and fone in the past three years. This was the gang which kept each other sane through boring autumn projects. Six non-delhi-ites stuck in NCR for two months on projects. Most of the said six were vela for most of the said 2 months!!! One in Faridabad (me), four in Noida (Abhi Sudhir Kau and Addy), Two in Gurgaon (God) ...We met everyweekend in one of the three happening places - Dilli, Sector 15 in F'bad or Sect 18 in Noida...We did the tourist thing by doing a trip to the Taj and Mussoorie and stacked spiritual points up by the dozen by visitin Mathura, Haridwar and rishikesh. I just realized that for a extremely irrelegious (to the point of irreverance) kinda person, i have probably seen more temples post this self confessed irreverance!!! Anyway, cutting a long story short, we came up with a name for our group on a phat-phati ride from Dilli border to F'bad at midnight, when we were foolish enuff to think Dilli was a safe place, and i was dropped at my guesthouse by my poor friends "en-route" to Noida!!!! Since none of us stayed in Dilli, we coined "Outskirters" as the term which we still use in all our mailing sprees. But a name like that obviously didnt escape my one track mind - i did point out that had we all stayed in dilli, we wud have been called inskirters which, well, kinda sucks...

Then my favourite and oldest group...my ethi days group. We use it for our egroup. We use it in our mails to collectively refer to a bunch of ppl who despite being spread across the diversity of the first, middle and last benches of the class still managed to get along well and still stay in touch. And today are geographically across two continents. Anu n Anu anand in the US...Deepa in chennai, hyd and soon to be germany...Anitha , Laks and Gil in Chennai...Lavanaay a.k.a. the daag in blore, soon in Philly...Me in blore, ocassionally in other third world countries. The group name was derived courtesy me n the daag (basically me coz the daag wouldnt have dared to do this) who traversed the same route on 19M for three years. This route took us through an now infamous theater called Pilot which started as a decent place (i actually saw baby's day out here) and now (donno if it still exists) screens films of dubious distinction (ok. it screens cheap porn)... We saw the theatre deteriorate in the three years. And it became good timepass for us to start observing the movie names...dont remember a lot of it now, but we began our day with movie names like "The huntress" "Thirsty for blood" etc. One such title towards the end of the third year eventually ended up being my egroup name ... Thats the genesis of Killergirls!!! As i told Anu, thank the lord i chose that for our group name...the next change in the theatre was "Virginhunters" - Wonder if we could have ever lived THAT down!!!

Speaking of names. Couple of my friends have had children recently. And the names chosen: A boy got named Saket and the girl Naeshaa. When i enquired, was told that the former means "Ayodhya" (remember Saket Ram of Hey Ram fame???) and the latter means "Pure" in Afro-american. But cant help wondering. If these kids ever get caught in any school with a south indian populace, Socket and Nai (dog in tamil) will probably have miserable childhoods. Unless they have inherited their respective parents' superb sense of humor!!! Makes you think life does come full circle. From naming kids atrociously unpronouncable names like "Abithakuchalambal" and "Pichaikani" and the like, we have graduated to shorter and sleeker names but with equally disastrous results. Heres wishing Saket and Naesha the very best in their lives!!!

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

Some good stuff on the net...

If you are pro-blore, anti-blore, wanna know abt blore...this the best blog ive seen to date on this subject...

http://thebangaloretorpedo.blogspot.com/2006/10/circus-comes-to-belgaum.html
(Links to the recent belgaum fiasco)

Well thats that... i wish i cud pen some deep and meaninful thoughts. But the only thing i can think of is

"abyss, beginning, bore, chasm, depression, derivation, fount, fountain, fountainhead, geyser, hole, inception, mine, mouth, origin, pit, pool, repository, reservoir, root, shaft, source, spa, spout, spring, springs, watering place, wellspring"

Chew on that...

Monday, October 02, 2006

Ramblings

Sometimes when your thoughts just wander, its best to spew them out on paper – cyber or real just so that someday u can look back at it and laugh... or maybe who knows those words may be worth gazillions...

My thoughts are today in a much trodden path...that hits every person annually (at least), the why am i doing what i am doing question.

I figure that each person has his/ her own motivation for working.

Some people work because they need the money- in a way i envy them, cos they rarely have moral dilemmas.
Some people work because they enjoy power. They see quick growth in the organization, and perceive that a position of power is not too far off.
Some people work because they like their teams. Their work may not be the most exiting in the world, but they'd rather work there than any where else, which may have a hostile boss. Often coz they have reached a comfort zone they are not prone to move away from...
Some people work because they like what they do. Because they enjoy it, and they revel in it. Most of us are at this stage for say, the first two months of our jobs...Some others are in this "honeymoon period" for maybe a year. if they are lucky, maybe two...
Some people work because the are learning something new. May not always be in an area they like, or enjoy. May not always be technical...maynot be relating to their industry, or subject matter. It may pertain to people. it may pertain to making useless powerpoint presentations, jazzy excel sheets or even how to create a good blog!!! Most of all they learn something about themselves each day...

Now that i have neatly segmented people based on their motivations, where do i fit in... I am a mixture of a lot of these. But i guess most people are the same. Its not a single motivation to work, but different forces that propel me at different points of time.

Yes, while i never had this drive to work purely for money, it does however make things difficult, as in todays economy, salary can be a constant.

I did work for the love of my team. That was when my team was small. But i guess im not the kind of person who is blindly loyal... I know that there are people who would take their peer/ boss's word or judgement as law and not question it. But im not one of those either. In a people-centric profession, subjectivity is rampant, and as long as one can recognize that as a fact of life and draw their own conclusions, things will be fine. Ive faced a scenario where a peer of mine had made a comment that i was a "veritable Hitler". I didnt take it seriously, but turns out the rest of the office did, and every interaction of mine with them was colored by this comment made harmlessly 2 years ago. Maybe i am a Hitler, maybe i was, maybe i always will be one, but i'd rather that people reach that conclusion after interacting with me, rather than take someones word for it. But thats like asking all people to have a rational mind of their own, which goes against the grain of human nature. My answer to this scenario, is what i hope is a mature one. While i have not gone out of my way to eradicate assumptions, i do make it a point not to make point blank comments about other people. Recently, i was asked what sort of a manager XYZ was by one of XYZ's new team members. The only thing i said, was that the equation between any two people is different, and that as long as XYZ's deadlines were met, he should not have issues with XYZ. I figure (based on office gossip and some first hand experience) i could have said that XYZ was a ruthless person to work with, or that XYZ was a control freak who didnt respect independence. But then that would not make the guy who asked me happy to start work...And of late ive found myself respecting people whatever be their position, who do not accept a judgement purely because i made it or my boss made it... Must have a soft spot for rebels.

All said and done, power does have its temptation, but i guess it also does corrupt absolutely...so in the long run its not too much of a kicker

Do i love my job? At this point of time no...and id love to do a job which i loved...(too much love:) in that statement)

So that leaves me with the my key motivation...learning. I do believe that an idle mind is a devils workshop...so the minute one stops learning, one should start looking for a new job. Never mind if its at the bottom of the food chain. never mind if its not the most glamorous. Never mind if it aint the easiest or the best paying. As long as u learn...